It is a big world out there for online businesses. So many options, so many ways to make it happen, so many dreams you could have, so many things to do to make those dreams happen….so… much… information. And it can be especially challenging for those of us who are just figuring out our dreams, what our visions are and will be, and how we’re going to even get going.

And everyone tells you to dream big. Dream big. Now, of course that is an important thing. Don’t censor yourself. Be honest about what you want. Be brave and just say it, if only to yourself. Don’t hold anything back.

But sometimes that advice can be confusing, especially when you’re just starting out. How do you know if you’re doing it right, this planning your vision thing? Just what it it that you want to do? Do I have to be a super-star household name? Am I dreaming big enough? Is my vision for business and life enough?

Here’s a question: big enough for whom? (Just because we like proper grammar around here!)

What would make you happy? What do you want your business to be, and what would make it everything that YOU want it to be? Focus on that. And THEN the energy can be directed to support what it is that you want the most.

Is it a six-figure (or more) automated business that lets you be location independent? Is it taking your time to coach individuals one-on-one or as part of a group of kindred spirits? Is it having your own roadside stand on your property where you sell fresh produce and quirky artwork? Or do you just want to have enough money to pay the bills and live a comfortable life on your own terms?

Really, everyone, my purpose here is to help you figure out what “the dream” is for you and do what you need to do to get started. I’m not here to tell you that your business vision isn’t good enough, big enough, smart enough, whatever enough. But I DO want you to move out of your area of comfort and move in the direction of your dreams, and I want to see you take the bold steps that will be necessary. (And believe me, there will be MANY a bold maneuver you’ll have to make!)

But herein lies the difference: there are some things that have to be done to get you past your fears and closer to your dreams. You’re going to have to be really brave and uncomfortable and at times it’ll feel pretty icky. But then again there are other options to pursue and ways of thinking to consider that for some might be ideal, but for you might not be right. The key is knowing the difference between what merely scares you (but has to be done) and what is simply irrelevant to you and your vision.

When someone tells you what you “should” be doing, how does it strike you? Say that someone tells you that you’re not thinking big enough. Suppose they suggest something they believe you should do that you find completely scary and daunting….now, ask yourself and ask yourself honestly: does this sound bad to me because I know that I need to do it but I’m just afraid to, OR does this sound irritating to me because I’m just not interested and don’t believe that it suits my purposes?

It’s an important question. If the most lofty pinnacle in life that you can imagine is to be on stage giving a TED talk about your dragon-slaying life adventures, then by all means, make it happen! You can! Go nominate yourself right now!!

But if in your heart and soul all you ever really wanted was the world’s most quaint and charming lemonade stand on an old country road near your family home, and the thought of adding a Nobel Peace Prize or an appearance on “Shark Tank” to that is just not all that enthralling to you, then stick to what it is that will get you there.

But know the difference. Don’t sell yourself short. Don’t deny your dreams all of the space to expand to their full potential. If you want something that most of the world agrees is the “be-all”, then go for it. By all means. But don’t do things that aren’t aligned with your dreams just because someone else thinks that you’re not living up to their standards of success.

Determining what this means for you takes a lot of self-exploration and honesty….but it is well worth knowing.

So dream big, little ones….big enough for you, that is!

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So how do you figure it out? So glad you asked! We’ll talk about that next week!

But in the meantime, what do you think? Have you ever had someone say (or imply) that you need to “dream bigger”? Or have you ever told someone else that very thing who honestly needed to hear your advice? How do you determine what’s wrong for you as opposed to something that you know needs to be done that you just don’t want to do? Sound off below!

3 Comments on Are Others Trying To Tell You What You Want? When To Listen (And When Not To!)

  1. Merri
    May 13, 2015 at 2:44 pm (2 years ago)

    Another great topic today ! Indeed, it is sometimes hard to know what dream direction is yours! My first thought was a simple one.. Trust your gut… Simple … Not always easy … As a great man once said …. I find if I ask myself a question three times and get the same answer, I am onto something ! Great thought -and action – provoker today !!!

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  2. Jennifer
    May 13, 2015 at 4:09 pm (2 years ago)

    True, true! One thing I like to do is to make a note of how it feels when I consider what I’m planning. Does any resistance feel like avoidance or just annoyance? Sometimes it can be hard to decide, but most of the time there is a pretty clear winner, if you stick to your intuition!

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    • Merri
      May 15, 2015 at 8:06 am (2 years ago)

      Excellent idea! I will be borrowing that one! It will help to sort things
      out so much easier! Thank you for the suggestion!

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