So have you decided what it is that you want the most right now?

Last week, I put the question on the table….what came up for you? Something amazing? Something exciting and a little bit (or maybe a lot-bit!) scary? Whoo-hoo! Nothing makes my day more than that. (And if you’re still not quite sure what that something is for you right now, check out last week’s article, give the action steps a go, and see what happens.)

So now that you have something in mind–that is, you know what you believe in, what you love, and what you’re wanting to charge the hill for–that begs the next question:

What is stopping you?

Of course! Now that we have this fabulous thing, when it comes down to actually taking the steps and making it happen, well…..sometimes the romance of revolutionary ideas starts to fizzle a little bit….

Is it just not the right time yet? And what would I even do to get thing off the ground, anyway? What if I get lost in it all and just chuck the plan altogether? (Or worse, just let it all burn out?)

Let’s take care of that right now. One step at a time, as always!

-What If It’s Not The Right Time?  I do believe in divine timing. Completely and utterly. 100%. So what would make me question the timing of anything? Well….you do have to be ready when you’re planning something important. But then again, don’t wait until everything is perfect, either, or you’ll never jump. But then again, things do unfold in their own way, so you have to let them take their course. But of course, nothing happens if you don’t take action, soo…..

Confused yet? I wouldn’t blame you! But seriously, there is a way to put all that together, still honor the divinity of the timing of your life, and actually get something done, too. Here’s my rules of thumb concerning timing:

-When you think about what it is you dream about, how does the idea of actually taking a big leap feel to you? Scary? Exciting? I as in want to do this RIGHT NOW? Or does it sound really tempting….but something is stopping you?

Here’s a quick little test to see what’s what on that score:

-What if I told you that you had to do that one thing that would REALLY push things forward–and that you had to do it RIGHT NOW? No time to think about it, no line, no waiting, do not pass “GO”, do not collect $200.00, you have to do something right away? Say that you had no choice but to leave that job that you’ve been planning to quit? Or that your dream client was sitting two chairs away from you and all that you had to do was introduce yourself? Right this minute or never again? What if it really WAS standing in front of you demanding an immediate answer? Make it real. Feel it through.

-Did it freak you out? Or did it scare you but at the same time motivate you to no end? If it was the latter, then I’d say your ready–full steam ahead! This is huge because it tells you that you’ve made a big shift—that what you really dream about isn’t just a dream, it is in you. For real. You’ve taken it into your heart and soul. Chances are that if this is you right now, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

-But if if was the former–that is, if you got choked up and paralyzed at the idea of doing something big immediately if not sooner–ask yourself this: what is it that made me hesitate? Write it down. Contemplate it. It’s OK, nothing to feel bad about, just look at it. It holds a lot of truth that’ll only help you to know. Be honest about it, let it be. But don’t ignore it. And understand when I say this: I am not asking you to justify your hesitation (no judgement). All I am asking you to do is to explain it. And understand it. And let the knowledge of its presence help you. (Because it will.)

-If you can be honest with yourself about what’s holding you back, you can do something about it. Nothing sends fear packing quite like honesty…and action. Even a little bit of action will do! So even though you might not be totally ready for the big time right this minute, that doesn’t mean just sit there. Just do something today. Something that excites you and gets you closer.  And if that feeling of hesitation comes up, don’t fight it, but don’t necessarily believe in it, either. Chances are that whatever you’re afraid of isn’t real, anyway….but you have to start believing that yourself first. And sometimes, that takes time.
-But it DOESN’T mean that you shouldn’t take action NOW. Just start small. Rome wasn’t the only thing that wasn’t built in a day.  Do something that’ll start getting you there, even if it isn’t a radical shift. And keep doing things. Every day. Put stuff on the calendar and stay with it. Consistently.

-If It IS Time To Really Get Things Going In a BIG Way, Start Setting The Plan. But Don’t Over-Plan. Once again, let’s go back to what our dream is right now–refer to step number one (from last week) and ask yourself: what kind of a time frame am I looking at for all of this? Would it be 3 to 6 months? Three to six weeks? Keep it fairly short-term right now–we’re talking action plans now, rather than lofty and dreamy ideas (both of which are great, but there’s a difference in how they’re implemented–we’ll talk about that later!)

-What would it take to get you where you want to be in the time-frame you’ve chosen? For example, would you need a certain amount of money in the bank? Would you need to hire a website designer or learn to tackle WordPress on your own? Would you need to economize so you’ll feel more comfortable during the first few months of business? Would you need to hire a coach and mentor to hold you accountable?

Plan, but don’t over-plan. I’m sure that by now you’re starting to envision Plan Bs–that is, what to do if your big idea goes south and how to avoid flopping in the first place. And absolutely, this shouldn’t be overlooked! But I don’t recommend trying to think of every little last thing that might go wrong, either! For one thing, nobody can think of absolutely every possible scenario. You’re gonna miss a few, I guarantee it.  And secondly, I don’t know about you, but spending a lot of time dreaming up nightmare scenarios and how on earth you’ll be able to thwart them all not only doesn’t sound like any fun, but also it can send you down a spiral of fear. “What if’s” can drive you nuts. So by all means, be smart and get help planning for things you might not be ready for, but don’t get carried away. Expect miracles rather than cling to visions of disasters. (At least for the most part!)

-Put it all on the calendar, the Day-Planner, The Morning Journal, however you like. Just put it down somewhere. Where you can see it.

-Now, all That is Left Is The Doing!

So what are you going to do and when is your big day? Remember that it only has to be a “big thing” to you, not to anybody else. But DO take the time, honor your own wishes, and take action on them as they deserve to be honored. And make them “real”.

So What Did We Just Do?

-We Decided On What Your Big Dream Right NOW would Be (Recall “Wouldn’t It Be Great If I Could_________________Right Now?”)

-We Honestly Asked Ourselves If We’re REALLY Ready Or Not..And Made A Plan To Move Forward (In Either Event)

-We Made a Plan For The NEXT Big Thing and Got Ready To Put in Into Play!

Whoo-Hoo!!

So tell Me, how do you feel about what we talked about today? Timing, Planning, The Idea Itself, or anything else? I’d love to hear about it!!

20 Comments on So You’ve Figured Out Your Next Big Dream…Now What? (Part 2)

  1. Misti
    August 26, 2015 at 8:21 am (2 years ago)

    I love this idea of “next big dream”- because I am a dreamer and idea person at heart. Being creative is so hard, because we often feel as if we will never have a “calling” because we like too many things and have too many dreams. For me, I’m learning to split those up into short term versus longer term. I can work on my writing and blogging now and start mind mapping and plotting things for my BIG dream of having a horse training facility. I can’t just walk out the door and buy a horse farm, there are steps I need to take to get there, and a fair amount of money involved as well. When you start to DO just one thing though, then I realize the entire conversation with myself and others starts changing!

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    • Jennifer
      August 26, 2015 at 8:28 am (2 years ago)

      Exactly, Misti! Taking everything one step at a time makes everything more manageable and more doable. And as you said taking it in smaller steps helps you set a solid foundation for the big stuff, so it’s a win-win. Great observation, thank you!

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  2. Merri
    August 26, 2015 at 11:18 am (2 years ago)

    Love this! Thank you for jump-starting the feel-do-plan momentum! And it is 10!! 10 new clients to share presence – wellness – fulfillment! Thank you!😋

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    • Jennifer
      August 26, 2015 at 12:14 pm (2 years ago)

      Excellent! Very specific, love it! 😉

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  3. Conny
    August 26, 2015 at 7:53 pm (2 years ago)

    I just heard the phrase: Are you finding a solution to every problem or are you finding a problem to every solution?
    This came to my mind when I read this blog post. What often stops us from moving from dreaming into planing and doing is that we scare ourselves to immobility. Even if we see an opportunity, a door that opens for us, we come up with all the what-if’s, or in other words, we are finding problems to the solution.
    I like your approach to take action and do something towards the dream anyways, even if it’s only a very little step.

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    • Maggie
      August 27, 2015 at 11:25 am (2 years ago)

      Love that phrase, Conny!

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      • Jennifer
        August 27, 2015 at 6:29 pm (2 years ago)

        Absolutely, Conny! Nothing quite as useless as “analysis paralysis”! I have been down the “what-if” road too many times myself, and it not only halts productivity but also joy. No fun in that! 🙂

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    • Val
      August 28, 2015 at 4:17 pm (2 years ago)

      I also love this phrase Connie! Will have to copy it down and refer to if often when I find myself coming up with excuses!

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      • Jennifer
        August 29, 2015 at 12:21 pm (2 years ago)

        Gonna be borrowing that phrase too, Conny! Thanks for that, spot-on!

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  4. Maggie
    August 27, 2015 at 11:29 am (2 years ago)

    I decided this week to start getting up early so that I could have some time for myself in the mornings. First day: I felt like Rocky, so empowered and so happy that I showed up for myself. Second day: I felt like I got hit by a truck! My whole rhythm was off, I couldn’t focus, I felt like I was coming down with the flu. This morning (third day), I slept in. Tomorrow, I intend to back to an early rise. What it taught me was that at my age (almost 50), I am going to be gentle with myself as I make leaps. It doesn’t all have to happen overnight.

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    • Jennifer
      August 27, 2015 at 6:30 pm (2 years ago)

      It definitely doesn’t, Maggie….just a bit at a time makes all the difference, I have found!

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  5. Wenda
    August 27, 2015 at 5:23 pm (2 years ago)

    I love the line “Rome wasn’t the only thing that wasn’t built in a day.” That’s gold. I like the focus on taking some action each day … even if it is just a small step. Nothing causes me to build grand stories of doom more than letting a lot of time pass while I ruminate on something I need to do. Any little bit of action dispels that and gets me back into the “doable” mentality.

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    • Jennifer
      August 27, 2015 at 6:32 pm (2 years ago)

      Glad you liked it, Wenda! And yes indeed, nothing beats getting started like getting started…and of course, it doesn’t have to be all at once but a bit at a time. And also celebrate the wins along the way, no matter how small! (I think I forgot to mention that in this post–sounds like something to address in another one!) 🙂

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  6. Val
    August 28, 2015 at 4:19 pm (2 years ago)

    Thank you for this post Jennifer. Perfect timing for me right now as I am coming up with so many business and life ideas! I have to keep asking myself “What is stopping me?”

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  7. Roisin
    August 29, 2015 at 7:22 pm (2 years ago)

    I love the question: What is stopping you? I find it so useful because most of the time when I answer that question I realise that what’s stopping me is fear. And fear is not a good reason for not taking action toward my dreams.

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    • Jennifer
      August 30, 2015 at 12:14 pm (2 years ago)

      Know that fear thing all too well, Roisin! Happens to us all, and it is probably the biggest thing keeping so many of us from taking big chances and really going for it. I do find that an honest answer when you ask yourself what is stopping you, one where you simply answer the question without judging yourself, tells you so much about where you are. And it is excellent information to have, too–once you know where you are, you can work with that! 🙂

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  8. Michele
    August 30, 2015 at 3:38 pm (2 years ago)

    I know what I want to do — full-time writer, and after a job loss last year, I’m slowly getting there. It’s hard to juggle when you’re still working outside the home to pay the bills. I can’t quit because I am the only adult. I will get there, though!

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    • Jennifer
      August 30, 2015 at 4:35 pm (2 years ago)

      Absolutely! And one step at a time is all it takes. 🙂

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  9. Chrissy
    September 1, 2015 at 2:02 am (2 years ago)

    I can often be an over planner. Thanks for the reminder to just get it started and get going even if I don’t know exactly how I’m going to get to my destination!!

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    • Jennifer
      September 1, 2015 at 11:51 am (2 years ago)

      Don’t I know that feeling well! It’s great to have a plan (as I am a big-time planner myself!) but it’s also necessary to get out there and try it out in practice rather than just theory…and you can always correct course as you go along!

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