So have you decided what it is that you want the most right now?
Last week, I put the question on the table….what came up for you? Something amazing? Something exciting and a little bit (or maybe a lot-bit!) scary? Whoo-hoo! Nothing makes my day more than that. (And if you’re still not quite sure what that something is for you right now, check out last week’s article, give the action steps a go, and see what happens.)
So now that you have something in mind–that is, you know what you believe in, what you love, and what you’re wanting to charge the hill for–that begs the next question:
What is stopping you?
Of course! Now that we have this fabulous thing, when it comes down to actually taking the steps and making it happen, well…..sometimes the romance of revolutionary ideas starts to fizzle a little bit….
Is it just not the right time yet? And what would I even do to get thing off the ground, anyway? What if I get lost in it all and just chuck the plan altogether? (Or worse, just let it all burn out?)
Let’s take care of that right now. One step at a time, as always!
-What If It’s Not The Right Time? I do believe in divine timing. Completely and utterly. 100%. So what would make me question the timing of anything? Well….you do have to be ready when you’re planning something important. But then again, don’t wait until everything is perfect, either, or you’ll never jump. But then again, things do unfold in their own way, so you have to let them take their course. But of course, nothing happens if you don’t take action, soo…..
Confused yet? I wouldn’t blame you! But seriously, there is a way to put all that together, still honor the divinity of the timing of your life, and actually get something done, too. Here’s my rules of thumb concerning timing:
-When you think about what it is you dream about, how does the idea of actually taking a big leap feel to you? Scary? Exciting? I as in want to do this RIGHT NOW? Or does it sound really tempting….but something is stopping you?
Here’s a quick little test to see what’s what on that score:
-What if I told you that you had to do that one thing that would REALLY push things forward–and that you had to do it RIGHT NOW? No time to think about it, no line, no waiting, do not pass “GO”, do not collect $200.00, you have to do something right away? Say that you had no choice but to leave that job that you’ve been planning to quit? Or that your dream client was sitting two chairs away from you and all that you had to do was introduce yourself? Right this minute or never again? What if it really WAS standing in front of you demanding an immediate answer? Make it real. Feel it through.
-Did it freak you out? Or did it scare you but at the same time motivate you to no end? If it was the latter, then I’d say your ready–full steam ahead! This is huge because it tells you that you’ve made a big shift—that what you really dream about isn’t just a dream, it is in you. For real. You’ve taken it into your heart and soul. Chances are that if this is you right now, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
-But if if was the former–that is, if you got choked up and paralyzed at the idea of doing something big immediately if not sooner–ask yourself this: what is it that made me hesitate? Write it down. Contemplate it. It’s OK, nothing to feel bad about, just look at it. It holds a lot of truth that’ll only help you to know. Be honest about it, let it be. But don’t ignore it. And understand when I say this: I am not asking you to justify your hesitation (no judgement). All I am asking you to do is to explain it. And understand it. And let the knowledge of its presence help you. (Because it will.)
-If you can be honest with yourself about what’s holding you back, you can do something about it. Nothing sends fear packing quite like honesty…and action. Even a little bit of action will do! So even though you might not be totally ready for the big time right this minute, that doesn’t mean just sit there. Just do something today. Something that excites you and gets you closer. And if that feeling of hesitation comes up, don’t fight it, but don’t necessarily believe in it, either. Chances are that whatever you’re afraid of isn’t real, anyway….but you have to start believing that yourself first. And sometimes, that takes time.
-But it DOESN’T mean that you shouldn’t take action NOW. Just start small. Rome wasn’t the only thing that wasn’t built in a day. Do something that’ll start getting you there, even if it isn’t a radical shift. And keep doing things. Every day. Put stuff on the calendar and stay with it. Consistently.
-If It IS Time To Really Get Things Going In a BIG Way, Start Setting The Plan. But Don’t Over-Plan. Once again, let’s go back to what our dream is right now–refer to step number one (from last week) and ask yourself: what kind of a time frame am I looking at for all of this? Would it be 3 to 6 months? Three to six weeks? Keep it fairly short-term right now–we’re talking action plans now, rather than lofty and dreamy ideas (both of which are great, but there’s a difference in how they’re implemented–we’ll talk about that later!)
-What would it take to get you where you want to be in the time-frame you’ve chosen? For example, would you need a certain amount of money in the bank? Would you need to hire a website designer or learn to tackle WordPress on your own? Would you need to economize so you’ll feel more comfortable during the first few months of business? Would you need to hire a coach and mentor to hold you accountable?
Plan, but don’t over-plan. I’m sure that by now you’re starting to envision Plan Bs–that is, what to do if your big idea goes south and how to avoid flopping in the first place. And absolutely, this shouldn’t be overlooked! But I don’t recommend trying to think of every little last thing that might go wrong, either! For one thing, nobody can think of absolutely every possible scenario. You’re gonna miss a few, I guarantee it. And secondly, I don’t know about you, but spending a lot of time dreaming up nightmare scenarios and how on earth you’ll be able to thwart them all not only doesn’t sound like any fun, but also it can send you down a spiral of fear. “What if’s” can drive you nuts. So by all means, be smart and get help planning for things you might not be ready for, but don’t get carried away. Expect miracles rather than cling to visions of disasters. (At least for the most part!)
-Put it all on the calendar, the Day-Planner, The Morning Journal, however you like. Just put it down somewhere. Where you can see it.
-Now, all That is Left Is The Doing!
So what are you going to do and when is your big day? Remember that it only has to be a “big thing” to you, not to anybody else. But DO take the time, honor your own wishes, and take action on them as they deserve to be honored. And make them “real”.
So What Did We Just Do?
-We Decided On What Your Big Dream Right NOW would Be (Recall “Wouldn’t It Be Great If I Could_________________Right Now?”)
-We Honestly Asked Ourselves If We’re REALLY Ready Or Not..And Made A Plan To Move Forward (In Either Event)
-We Made a Plan For The NEXT Big Thing and Got Ready To Put in Into Play!
So tell Me, how do you feel about what we talked about today? Timing, Planning, The Idea Itself, or anything else? I’d love to hear about it!!