Everyone has a talent, everyone has special gifts, everyone is unique…just figure it all out and do something amazing with it. Uh….OK, sure! Sounds like….er, a plan.

An easier said than done one, right?

I’m sure we’ve all heard this kind of VERY well-meaning talk before. Probably many times and in many ways. As boring, ho-hum, and as cliche as it sounds.

Probably we’ve heard it, though, because it is true! Unfortunately, sometimes all of these well-meaning lines just sound like so much talk. Why? Because while they speak the truth, there’s one thing that is usually left out…

How exactly do we DO that?

Because what happens when we have a lovely and lofty yet vague idea? We might get it’s meaning, but as far as HOW to use it…..well, how exactly do we apply this beautiful platitude, exactly?

And that is when a subtle yet powerful enemy can creep in: confusion. When you’re confused, what do you do? The answer, of course is NOTHING. And when you do nothing at all–when you find yourself at a confounding impasse, what happens? Simple: you either quit or don’t even start, well…it’s pretty obvious how THAT all helps! (Ahem!)

One of the biggest enemies of all, then, is one of the slightly less obvious ones: CONFUSION. Because confusion leads to INACTION. And well all know where inaction leads!

So how do you avoid that nasty pitfall and actually FIND these supposedly brilliant skills and talents so that you can put them to work?

Well, that’s what we’re going to tackle today! Let’s jump right in….

It is true. We all have special talents. Special gifts. Special everything. So why, then, does it sometimes seem at first glance like you’re just like everyone else, nothing special, same old message, same old ideas? Then again, Other times, you might find yourself convinced that you AREN’T like everyone else, that you could never be as good as “them”, as smart as them, or as fabulously successful as them.

So which is it??

Well, when you take the self-deprecating spin away and just look at the words themselves –that is–the truth is somewhere in between!

Nobody else is quite like you, therefore you very well might have the same KIND of business as someone else…but the way that YOU do your thing is completely original because it is YOUR way. YOUR voice. YOUR spin.

And on the converse….you CAN be “like everyone else” in that you CAN be as successful and as happy as the people in your field are!

Pretty cool way of turning things around, huh?

NOW, it just comes down to finding those special talents of yours and putting them to work for YOU….AND using them for the people who need them the most!

It all starts with knowing what those much-ballyhooed talents are, though!

Back up just one more step, though, and ask this: what exactly do we mean by “talents”, here? Let’s go with this definition: talents are the things that you do well without even trying. The things that you’re naturally good at. For example, are you a gracious listener, a strong leader, a joyful giver, a compassionate teacher, a badass motivator, bold risk-taker? That’s what I mean by “talents” right now.

Now, what kinds of talents are yours? And how are you going to use them?

Are you hearing crickets? Thought that might happen! (Believe me, I know…nothing like being told to answer complex questions on demand, huh?) And I believe that I DID say something about telling you HOW to get this lofty, vague, talent-finding stuff done, didn’t I? Let’s take care of that right now…..

Here’s a little three-step trick to get those talents of yours down on paper:

Step 1: Answer these questions…and be as bold and detailed as you please!

-What are three things in your life that you’ve accomplished of which you’re the most proud?
-What do your friends and family come to you for advice about or help with?
-What was the greatest compliment of your life so far and why?

Step 2: With the answers to the above questions in mind, answer these:
-What has made all of the above things easy for you? What kinds of skills do you have to have accomplished these things?
– For example, are you warm and giving? Compassionate? Empathetic? Are you a great listener? Do you inspire yourself and others with your wit or your drive? How about your tenacity?

Step 3: Put them together!
-Put the two together: the things you and those in your life have loved the most about you, AND the skills you have that made them happen.

TA-DAAAA!!!! Now you know not only what your talents are, but you can see for yourself how you’ve used them before.

So why not use them now? Use them to make the most out of your business idea and use them to make your business–AND your life–as one-of-a-kind as YOU are, even if if every Tom, Dick, and Harry under the shining sun seems to be running the same kind of business as you are. Now, you know that nobody is doing it quite like you!


So how about you? What kind of uniqueness do you bring to what you do? Have there ever been times like you’ve either felt stuck in feeling as though you were no different than everyone else or convinced that you could never be “as good” as everyone else? How did you deal with it? Share away below!

Talk soon!


9 Comments on Three Steps To Finding Your True Talent (And Avoiding Its Most Subtle Enemy!)

  1. Merri
    September 24, 2015 at 1:39 pm (2 years ago)

    Indeed! Love it! Remembering a photo of me at 5 with a waitress hat on making sure everyone had popcorn during the Rose Bowl! 🏈. I have always been the most at ease when serving ! Glad to be able to continue “the tradition”! Thank you for asking and reminding me of “my best”! 😋

    • Jennifer
      September 26, 2015 at 5:11 pm (2 years ago)

      Of course! And those talents can be used in so many different ways, too..

  2. Maggie
    September 24, 2015 at 3:07 pm (2 years ago)

    Great questions! Even though I’m not the only person in the world who can drill down to the essence of people’s patterns and connect the dots, I have a unique expression of this superpower that belongs to me. I often get tripped up in comparing myself to others who have similar skills and styles, and I ground myself in knowing that there’s no one else who does things just like I do them.

    • Merri
      September 24, 2015 at 3:40 pm (2 years ago)

      Indeed! That is the true beauty of the unique gift each of us have to share !

    • Jennifer
      September 26, 2015 at 5:13 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, exactly! Everyone puts their special spin on things, even if it seems at first that a lot of us do the same kind of thing. Just as there are many different doctors, lawyers, teachers, or whatever else that all can deliver the same information….but everyone brings something just a bit different to it all!

  3. Wenda
    September 24, 2015 at 10:20 pm (2 years ago)

    I love this technique with combining the answers to the two sets of questions! I have seen many similar exercises, but this one seems to cut to the chase more quickly.

    I am most proud of being able to hold on to my house, raise my kids on my own, and make a name for myself in my career (tenacity). People come to me for help when they need to feel empowered, particularly as a female, and when they feel overwhelmed (ability to chart a course). The greatest compliment of my life — from my daughter — was when I said I was afraid of something, and she said, “You? I didn’t think you were afraid of anything!” (bravery)

    This little exercise really clarifies my intrepid nature and what I have to offer. Thanks for such quick access to some true value. Love it!

    • Jennifer
      September 26, 2015 at 5:15 pm (2 years ago)

      Glad that you found it useful, Wenda! And what amazing things you have done, too–wonderful to give yourself full credit for them and remember all that you have to share, isn’t it? (And what a beautiful compliment from your daughter, too!)

  4. Conny
    September 25, 2015 at 4:46 pm (2 years ago)

    I am most proud of that I was adventurous and brave enough to brake out of the norm and family mold and followed my dreams. I often say you have to be bold and creative to life your dream. But I’ve yet to find a way for me to not feel stuck more often than I like in thinking, I am no different than everyone else or that I could never be “as good” as everyone else. How do I deal with this? By trying to be bold and creative on my “confident days” and accept the days I feel insignificant and small.

    • Jennifer
      September 26, 2015 at 5:17 pm (2 years ago)

      Ah, yes…acceptance of things as they are when an “off” day happens is such a valuable skill, as well as embracing the empowerment that comes along when you’re feeling “in the zone”. Great strategies you’ve outlined here!


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