So in case you missed my big news last week, I am officially all-in with my business!

Yup, no more day job. It was a week ago that it all became official….and it’s been a little bit crazy ever since!

So what happened? Exactly what I predicted would happen……a great big crash.

And yet I was STILL surprised that it happened! (You know, kind of like when every year we set the clocks back in the fall….and then it gets dark at 5:00pm…and even though it happens EVERY year, we still look out the window and say WHY is it so dark??) πŸ˜‰

Now, it wasn’t a bad crash, mind you! Just a BIG crash. Ka-BOOM, hit the wall. Everything changed overnight. Just like that my life was mine. ALL mine. So how did THAT feel?

Well, to tell you the truth, I kind of wanted to sleep for about a week!

It all felt really weird. Like it wasn’t even quite real yet. Like it was happening to someone else. Like it was just all too much. An enormous void and lots of energy pouring out of all directions.

Ever been through a finals week only to go back home and realize, “hey, I don’t have to study tonight!” Ever survived the last six miles of a marathon only to realize that you don’t have a long training run next Saturday? Ever woke up and realized that you don’t have to go back to that job in the morning and the day is ALL yours? (And it’s FAR more freakish than it sounds like it would be??)

It’s kind of like all of those things!

The thing is, when something ends, there’s gonna be some fallout. Even if you wanted it to end, it there’s still the fallout. There will be some pretty big and gaping voids. There will be moments where you aren’t sure what to do or where to start or what the next step is. And that’s when it can get crazy. And scary. And just plain exhausting.

That’s when, ironically enough, a rest is in order. If you can arrange it.

When something big happens–like leaving your corporate job and the “ordinary” template of life for something new and exciting–you need to acknowledge what has happened. And make proper room for what is to come. And get yourself together and adjust to the newness of it all.

That’s where rest comes in. Yes, folks, REST. Even though you might think that you have to hit the ground running or ELSE you’ll lose momentum, you’ll wind up quitting, and you’ll end up selling carnations on the freeway exit ramp (or worse—go crawling back to the corporate job). Even though it might seem counter intuitive. Even though you might be afraid to do it for fear of losing stability.

Let’s be honest. Even Career Tributes Professional Athletes take a week or two off after winning the Super Bowl (and some even go to Disneyland, I’m told!) πŸ˜‰

The transition time is crucial. So that’s why things are….well, maybe a little bit “behind” this week…..but it won’t be forever.

So now that I’ve made the case for taking the time to rebuild after big changes, you can’t help but have some questions, I bet! Here are a few that come up when I think about it: for how long to I hibernate, what do I do during the downtime, and, what do I do when I come back?

Fabulous questions. Let’s look at them all.

-How long do you need? This is a very individual question. Everyone has their own goals, their own situations (personal and financial), and their own needs. But as a general rule, a long weekend to a full week might be a good default amount of time to take. When you’re planning your escape from the day job, pencil this time in on the calendar as part of the deal. No, actually, forget the pencil, put in on the calendar in permanent sharpie. MAKE it part of the deal. You’re gonna need it.

Next, after you decide how much time you need, put your return date on the calendar. This is important. You might even want to do this before you do anything else.

-What do I do during said downtime? Again, not everyone is the same, but a good thing to do might be to simply grab a pen and paper, a calendar, and write out everything that you want to get done in the next 3-6 months. Or maybe even just 1-3 months. Or, heck, maybe even 1-2 weeks! Whatever it means for you at the moment, get a Grand Vision going on.

Once that’s done, decide what you want your daily routine to be like. Determine what your minimum daily tasks will be and start planning out your days. Schedule everything and give it a place on the calendar. What would a dream day look like for you? Write it down. And plan out at least the first full-time week.

Why do both? Because when you have a grand plan on paper, it’ll be a lot easier to see the smaller steps that’ll get you there. And put those small steps on the calendar. And actually TAKE them.

-What do I do when I come back?Β Well….how about just get going? πŸ˜‰ You’ve made a lot of plans, so why not see how they actually work down here in the “real” world? Put those strategies into action. You don’t need to do everything in one day. But to start,Β  look at those plans for a dream day and start to enact them. Step by step. See how it works!

But most of all—and this is important–RELAX! Everything is going to be OK….it really is. Take those first steps from a place of happiness rather than a place of panic. It’s not like, “OMG I don’t have a job anymore!” but rather, “OMG, I am a business owner! And it’s gonna be awesome!” Not always easy to do, but if it’s your default response to the taunting of a doubting mind, you’ll come out ahead more often than you won’t.

So there you have it! Remember to rest–and SCHEDULE it, too. It is just as important as everything else you do!

So when was a time when you’ve had a big change happen….and all you wanted to do was sleep afterwards? How did you handle it? Tell me all about it!

4 Comments on Why Rest Is One Of The Greatest Success Strategies (Or, The Beauty of a “Bye” Week)

  1. Merri
    November 11, 2015 at 9:28 am (2 years ago)

    Wonderful, insightful post today! Thank you for sharing your real – time experience! My “done with The Man” times (yes… There have been many!) have initially been spent in deep breathing, relaxing, and enjoying the moments …. I discovered that I was a good influence on meπŸ˜„πŸŒžβ˜•οΈ!!

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    • Jennifer
      November 13, 2015 at 8:38 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, exactly! If you don’t rest, at least for a little while, it won’t turn out well. I’ve been down that road before! Best to take it one step at a time and move into your new life fully. πŸ™‚

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  2. Conny
    November 14, 2015 at 12:14 am (2 years ago)

    I like how you suggest to plan for the next 3-6 months, planning is so important especially when you work for yourself. If you don’t plan and stick to the plan it’s really easy to get lost in lots of small little unimportant things AND Social Media and the days go by and at the end of the week you have not accomplished anything, even though you were ‘busy’ all the time. I had to chuckle when I read “Ever been through a finals week only to go back home and realize, β€œhey, I don’t have to study tonight!” Because I have experienced that when I took my studies for accounting & controlling. For 3 years, I had a full-time job and needed to study in every free minute I had. Then after the exams…. boom nothing, so much free time all of a sudden. I almost felt a little lost.

    Something funny happened when I became a freelancer back in 1998. I woke up and realized that I am my own boss. For many months, I would still feel kind of weird (almost guilty) when I took a day off during the week – because I could.

    It is sure a great feeling to be your own boss and the day is yours, it just needs some adjusting πŸ™‚

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    • Jennifer
      November 15, 2015 at 2:16 pm (2 years ago)

      It does take a bit of adjustment, it’s true! But it is well worth it, and I am seeing that already….and I love how you point out how the need to feel “busy” all the time is so prevalent in both academic and professional situations. That is one of the things that I have found the hardest to get past! Thanks for that insight! πŸ˜€

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